It's very alarming when I've read so many 'ladies' being impregnated, and later the man decided He is not going to be responsible for the baby. I've heard stories of abortion, and so forth happening... but guess, when one is not able to find support and help, abortion is one option which no one wish to take.. but no choice..
Some people may say, why not give birth to it, but if you are a woman with not support emotionally and financially, carrying a baby for 9 months (or maybe sometimes 8 months) is not easy! Saying it's always easier than anything. I'm not in support of abortion, but I do respect people decision in that manner. I did once told someone, in any situation if I'm not hit 30s, and I'm impregnated, I may consider that too. You think it's very irresponsible for a mother to abort a child, but do you think
Now, back to being a single mother, it's not an easy journey. I've heard lots of 'gossip' behind my back, and of course there were a lot of considerations at that time. I don't do thing impulsive, I always have plans ahead, and try to make things happen than waiting for it to happen, therefore the pregnancy came as a 'surprise' when I was just over 30!! Damn!
When I first got to know about the news, it was already in the gynae clinic as I was there for other test and NOT a pregnancy test!!! I'm all alone, don't know how to react, just nodding my head and I can't recall a single word the doc told me on that day till now! I came home holding my fear, tear and all sorts of mixed feeling... My concerns:-
1) Is the man going to be responsible?
2) How will my mum take it?
3) My work?
4) $$ enough mou?
5) To stay back at home or move out?
and blah blah blah......
I'm going to write in 'slow' mode on dealing with this matters, and hope it can be a 'reference' for those who is in the situation...